Abuse like Danielle’s in Early Childhood leave Permanent Scars

5 Apr

There’s hope for children that suffer trauma, abuse and neglect. The recovery process is painstaking and requires much time and emotional effort on the part of the victim.

During the first few years of life a child needs to receive proper nurturing, care and security through one to three primary caregivers. Attachment is critical; most children that don’t receive the proper bonding and love as a child can be socially impaired and lack optimum cognitive skills by several research studies and noted by Bruce Perry (Bruce D. Perry, The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog, 2006) Additionally, Dr.Perry summarizes what happens when a little girl like Danielle does not have a loving caretaker especially during the first three years of life.

Very little is known about the ability of replacement experiences later in life to “replace” or repair the undeveloped or poorly organized bonding and attachment capabilities. Clinical experiences and a number of studies suggest that improvement can take place, but it is a long, difficult and frustrating process for families and children. It may take many years of hard work to help repair the damage from only a few months of neglect in infancy. (Bruce D. Perry, Adapted in part from: “Maltreated Children: Experience, Brain Development and the Next Generation”, 2001 nd.) I find this statement to be very alarming especially because Perry indicates damage can be permanent from merely a few months of neglect–a very small fraction of the average human life!

Many children that are severely abused, suffer trauma loss or neglected become impaired with disabilities like attachment disorders, ADHD, borderline personality disorder, etc. Therapy is available and can help but not cure the victims.

If you would like to hear some great stories of triumph over terrible cases of abuse, I highly recommend these books:

The Lost Boy: A Foster Child’s Search for the Love of a Family by Dave J. Pelzer (Aug 1, 1997)

A Man Named Dave: A Story of Triumph and Forgiveness by Dave J. Pelzer (Sep 1, 2000)

Dave Pelzer has an amazing testimony of healing and personal growth as he works hard to overcome the scars of childhood.

Also another great read is about Dr. Francine Cournos, she suffered loss after loss as a child her mother, father and grandfather died and then she was sent away to live with strangers in a foster home. This woman allows us to look into her life of pain and recovery.

City of One: A Memoir by Francine Cournos (Oct 20, 2006)

Dr. Bruce Perry writes about many special patients he has personally helped recover through specialized therapy; he is a well-known expert in the field of recovery.  He has taken on world famous cases like The Branch Davidian Cult in Waco, TX and Satanic Ritual Abuse investigations and therapeutic centers. Dr. Perry gives us a look into some intimate situations and therapy sessions in his book:


Works Cited:

Bruce D. Perry, M. P. (2006). The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog. New York : Basic Books.

Bruce D. Perry, M. P. (2001 nd.). Adapted in part from: “Maltreated Children: Experience, Brain Development and the Next Generation”. Retrieved from http://www.childtrauma.org: http://www.childtrauma.org/images/stories/Articles/attcar4_03_v2_r.pdf


One Response to “Abuse like Danielle’s in Early Childhood leave Permanent Scars”

  1. whispersfrommyheart April 9, 2012 at 10:51 pm #

    What a great article! Children who suffer abuse in childhood deal with, not only the physical abuse they have endured, but emotional, psychological and spiritual issues as well.

    I do agree that children can learn to “unlearn” the trauma of their childhoods. It definitely is a long, drawn out process. But, it is one that is worth acheiving. From personal experience, I can tell you that children can overcome the trauma of their childhood.

    Thanks for such a wonderful post and for the book suggestions!

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