Danielle Never Met Her Brother Because Mom Killed Him…

24 Mar

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Danielle drew this self-portrait at the age of ten

She is not afraid because someone is attempting to break in to the house, worse yet, someone called “mom” is pouring blazing hot oil on her back, right in her own home. In fact, over five children per day are being killed at the hands of their parent (s). Cameron died at the age of two, his sister was born a year later, and she never had the privilege of meeting him but she met his mother and boyfriend, they gave life to her. “Danielle” the sister he never met, soon became their next target.

Wendy and her boyfriend Kinson were frustrated by his constant crying; he was in a lot of pain after coming home from the hospital. Cameron had recovered just enough from the first murder attempt but our local Department of Social Services allowed him to return to mom without counseling, evaluation or help. In fact, the grandmother begged DSS not to let the boy go back to his mother. If that’s not enough to convince you of injustice; Wendy, the boy’s mother even mentioned that she had serious mental health issues and previously had abused animals when she was a child. I believe she was indirectly saying that she was not capable of taking care of that little boy. The doctors at the hospital provided statements indicating the child had been intentionally burned with hot cooking oil from head to toe. These criminal facts did not stop the local caseworker from sending little Cameron back to his murderers. He died in his crib, less than a month after DSS  shipped him back into the home.

I am Danielle’s adoptive mother, I was at the doctor’s office one morning and my mother in law was babysitting Danielle. I was bored in the waiting room so I picked up the newspaper and read the headlines: “Woman Admits to Killing Her Son”. It was an article about the confession; there were intimate details about Wendy’s life and the murder of her two-year old son. Initially, I thought it was an article about some stranger in a faraway place. As I read on, it was evident that this was MY daughter’s birth mom! This was the how I discovered the details about Danielle’s previous family. I was shocked and saddened by this information!

I went home to pick Danielle up from her Gram’s; as I approached the door of her home, I saw Danielle on the front porch reading the morning newspaper! Since when did she ever find interest in the local news?! She was mortified and afraid, it was obvious she had read the article, so I calmly asked “How do you feel about all that”? “I’m afraid”. She replied. “Afraid of what?” I said. “I don’t want people to know she is my mom”. Danielle said. “Oh, don’t worry, you have a new last name and nobody will know” I replied. Her father and I have been dealing with the aftermath of that shock plus the abuse and neglect she experienced with her biological mother and foster parents for years now; that was just a small fragment of pain.

At the age of eight, we gave her a safe home and a loving family; that wasn’t enough so I took her to therapy, doctors, hospitals, clinics and churches for years. Currently, Danielle is now 18 years old; she has been permanently dismissed from two local school districts for behavior and truancy. She is addicted to pills and heroine; she has already been arrested, she has been hospitalized a couple of times, she lives in poverty, and has no friends; just people that she buys and sells drugs to. Danielle is the master of manipulation; she has ruined the reputation of our entire family bloodline throughout the years of destruction. We’ve had numerous encounters with the police, social workers and Child Protective Services. Danielle has falsely accused me and her father of many imaginary crimes. We’ve had authorities invade our privacy each time she didn’t like our household rules. She is a chronic thief and liar but I truly love her. I can’t explain how much love and concern I still have for a girl that has put our family through constant abuse and chaos. The only thing that I can attest for is this: her early childhood memories are so incredibly severe that she has chosen to cut them off entirely. She lives in a world of pretend: “Pretend those horrible things didn’t happen to me so that I don’t have to remember the pain”. Image

This is a doll they sent with her when foster care first placed Danielle in our home for adoption at age eight

This is not an unusual story, murder and abuse happens every day to children all over America. The last time statistics were reported, over five children per day die at the hands of their parents. (US Department of Health and Human Services) Cameron’s caseworker, CPS and the local Dept. of Family Services were never investigated or held responsible for the death of that precious two-year old boy till this day! I often wonder how many more counties around the U.S. get away with manslaughter and abuse. It’s very evident that the county was negligent in this one small case, I want to know who can help me advocate for the thousands of children here in America that are in the same situation. I’m just a mother, I never went to school for law; all I wanted was to take care of children that needed a loving mom.

Today I decided to check out the internet to see if there were any online news stories in regard to Wendy Smiley’s confession in order to confirm the accuracy of this article I wrote. Surprisingly, I found an article with information I was totally unaware of. For the past ten years, nobody knew what type of specific abuse my daughter encountered before we met her. She had refused to acknowledge any of her past entirely. Danielle was a sealed vault at all her therapy sessions, not one time has she ever given us even a clue about any abuse. Her choice to keep her abuse a secret is devastating because it has been keeping her locked up in a dark and painful world. Also, her internal feelings have made her angry at her father and I, she has taken her anger out on us constantly and ruthlessly all these years. My patience and love for her was always being challenged and she took me to my limits but I kept telling myself, something very terrible must have happened in her previous life. Today I finally discovered the truth about Danielle and her sibling’s abuse and it’s worse than I ever imagined. Below are a few excerpts from The Daily Star, The Newspaper for the Heartland of New York:

 “(birth mom) She said, “Cameron was suffering from burns (that she later admitted to inflicting). He was crying all the time and getting on my nerves.” “It got very bad, and I couldn’t take it anymore.” “Kinson and I had discussed taking his life from him.” “Cameron was in his bedroom, playing with his toys.” “I went in and laid him on the bed and punched him in the stomach three times,” she said… According to court documents, Simley told State Police Investigators Timothy Allan and James Greenwood, “People should know I would do something like this because I used to kill and mutilate animals.” She also said, “The state took my other children away because I beat the hell out of them.”… Simley also told officials that she had tried drowning Cameron before the burning incident. She also said she tried drowning her other three children. She said all of her children were taken away from her and eventually adopted. ” (Breaky 2005)

I’m not a detective, investigator or forensic scientist but common sense tells me that a few agencies should be held accountable for neglecting to prevent the death of Cameron plus severe abuse Wendy later inflicted upon her other three children. For starters, Cameron should NEVER have been placed back with Wendy the first time she tried to kill the two-year old with hot oil! The Daily Star seems to have the same school of thought:

“What we’ve learned since her onslaught of remorse is sickening, especially when you realize that the death and suffering of children could have been prevented. After Cameron’s death, Simley returned to Syracuse where she had three more children, which were taken away from her because she “beat the hell out of them,” she confessed. …she (Wendy Simley) admitted intentionally burning Cameron with grease, causing burns on 70 percent of his body. Doctors and neighbors called the state child-abuse hot line, according to Simley’s step-mother, who said she also called the hot line and the Delaware County Department of Social Services about other evidence of abuse such as pinching and punching. The burns were suffered two months before the fatal beatings. Where was the intervention that could have saved Cameron’s life?… We don’t know how much clearer the evidence of abuse has to be. The system obviously failed to protect Cameron from a mother who was not fit to be responsible for a child’s welfare…” (The Daily Star June 16, 2005)

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This is what Danielle wrote when I asked her to reflect about her feelings after reading about Wendy’s confession.

I’m looking for attorneys, and other professionals with knowledge and motivation to help me advocate for the thousands of children here in America that are in the same situation. Perhaps the first step would be to sue the Delaware County agencies that failed to rescue Cameron. It seems apparent that it would be easy to hold them accountable; they have no defense or excuse. By suing these agencies, perhaps the case would get major press coverage and other people from all over the U.S. will begin to share similar encounters with faulty government agencies related to child protection and welfare.

Can you help me? I’m just an adoptive mother that is angry with our current system, I do not have a law degree but I do have intense motivation and communication skills, together we could connect with other sources that will assist us. The Simley case is not an isolated event, I’ve worked for Children’s rescue homes off and on during this past decade, I’ve seen firsthand, numerous other cases of negligence by caseworkers in Child Protective Services and foster care. I’m not going away, this will be my legacy: She liberated thousands of children from abuse all over America and many more will be safe in future generations.

I would appreciate any comments that could direct my crusade.

Kind Regards,

Danielle’s mom

 

This is a card she gave me, occasionally Danielle would let her guard down and show her love for me.

Works Cited

Breaky, Patricia. “Woman Pleads Guilty in Death.” 09 June 2005. The Daily Star. The Newspaper for the Heartland of New York. Delhi News Bureau. 24 March 2012.

“Let’s hope system has improved.” 16 June 2005. The Daily Star. The Newspaper for the Heart of New York. 24 March 2012 <http://old.thedailystar.com/opinion/edits/2005/06/ed0616.html&gt;.

http://www.highbeam.com/doc/1G1-118428652.html

US Department of Health and Human Services. nd. Administration for Children and Families • 370 L’Enfant Promenade, S.W. • Washington, D.C. 20447 February 24 2012 <http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cb/laws_policies/cblaws/capta/&gt;.

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29 Responses to “Danielle Never Met Her Brother Because Mom Killed Him…”

  1. greeneyezwinkin2@aol.com March 25, 2012 at 1:08 am #

    Reblogged this on I am the eternal student…but I am not alone and commented:
    This is being posted for a fellow classmate of mine. Take the time to read it and find a way to help the abused children in our world.

  2. greeneyezwinkin2@aol.com March 25, 2012 at 11:05 pm #

    Your cause is a worthy one. Good Luck!!!

    • daniellesstory March 26, 2012 at 2:04 pm #

      Thanks Ms. Greeneeyezwinkin, I appreciate not only this word of encouragement but also for all the suggestions and technical suggestions. Because of you, Danielle’s story is now online!

  3. thefosteringlove March 26, 2012 at 1:54 am #

    Oh my heart breaks for your daughter. To have her find out her past this way… bless her precious heart. I am so thankful that there are people out there like you who can be there to help pick up the peices… I know that you- just like me- wishes there wasn’t a NEED for anyone to pick up the peices because they wouldn’t have been broken in the first place. Bless her sweet, precious, perfect heart.

  4. jessica March 26, 2012 at 4:19 am #

    God bless you and good luck on your journey!

    • daniellesstory March 26, 2012 at 4:22 am #

      Thank you for taking time to read our story, I appreciate your encouraging words.

      • takerr15@yahoo.com March 26, 2012 at 12:16 pm #

        your story is heart breaking and i would join your journely the best bet would help if we would start a organiztion as i am wanting to start mt own for steping stones for children and adults that have been buried with out stones and markers

      • daniellesstory March 26, 2012 at 1:49 pm #

        Hello Takkerr, I appreciate your adoration of helpless children and kind words. My crusade is to help prevent children from being abused, neglected and killed. I’m looking to join up with another group or organization out there that has already initiated the process. Unfortunately, I have not found them yet but as I continue my studies, I will search and find. Thanks for your input here.

  5. donna March 26, 2012 at 5:26 am #

    I’m so deeply touched and we need to act now! I want to so badly, get a van pick up lost children get them help now! I don’t care how hard it is to find her, you and I and need to do something! I think if it was a reality show to help us

    • daniellesstory March 26, 2012 at 1:42 pm #

      Hello Donna, thanks for your response and concern. My goal is to help these children long term by exposing cases such as Cameron’s and then ultimatley getting changes made to the CAPTA law that is suppose to be protecting children from this exact scenerio. I’m sure there are organizations and people out there with the same goals currently that I can partner with. Anotherwords, I don’t want to re-invent a wheel.

  6. Diane March 26, 2012 at 11:57 am #

    Perhaps you should work for Child Protective Services? They are completely overwhelmed and overworked. That’s NO excuse for missing this abuse, I just know they need help! I will pray for Danielle and your family and I’m so terribly sorry for how your whole family has had to suffer because od Smiley and her boyfriend. Not to sound cold, but sounds as if Cameron was blessed to die 😦 Better than a life of unending pain!!!

    • daniellesstory March 26, 2012 at 1:45 pm #

      Diane, thanks so much for your willingness to pray for our family. I’m hoping to find another organization that is already working toward the same goal I have: To expose negligent cases such as Cameron’s and then make changes to the CAPTA law; this is a law currently on the books to protect children from abuse and death, however, it’s not effective enough.

      • donna March 26, 2012 at 2:33 pm #

        If someone would do something new. Like more check ups on helpless children under the age of two I know at least a few lifes would be saved….. I must find people to re invent a NEW IDEA to slow it down at least…. This story …… Changed my life… I think we should put signs up a volunteers in each town to go out and find how many children live in a house and go from door to door and find the abuse! I my self have started that in my own town! I. See or hear anything I call social services… CHILDREN CAN’T SPEAK ….We Have to help them…… Please put any ideas down here……of what we can do to stop the abuse! WE MUST

      • daniellesstory March 27, 2012 at 8:50 pm #

        Indeed that would be helpful yet at the same time not so practical for the general population. On the other hand, the children that had documented CPS cases should have some type of check-ups.Thanks for your input here, your concern is appreciated.

  7. joseph ephraim April 2, 2012 at 7:33 pm #

    This is a bold move. Professional lawyers, doctors, pastors, world bodies, americans and the international community, let’s join in this worthy effort. Whatever your job or purpose is in life, it always about loving and contributing to humanity.

  8. Cassie April 4, 2012 at 9:03 pm #

    Wow. I am not sure what to say. I cannot believe that anyone could do such terrible things to her child, or to anyone for that matter. Danielle is my cousin, whom I have never met. My heart breaks for her, for everything that happened to her, and for how it is impacting her. I am blown away by the remarks that her birth mom made. Wow. This is like a storyline for an awful, disturbing movie or something. Knowing what happened to her brother, only God knows what happened to her. Obviously, it was terrifying, causing her to turn to drugs just to cover up the feelings of hurt and fear that she must have. I am just so sad for this girl. I can’t imagine what it must be like for her to even think about allowing herself to recall the awful things that must have happened to her. Terrible, wow.

    To my Auntie- I am so sorry that you have had to watch Danielle go through all of these struggles. You are such an amazing woman, I wish we were closer so I could be more involved in your life. What you have done for Danielle is nothing short of incredible. Where would she be without you?

    love you 🙂

    • daniellesstory April 4, 2012 at 11:09 pm #

      Thanks Cassie for taking the time to read Danielle’s story. For her sake, we’ve kept these things low key; almost nobody knows about her past and current struggles. Because she looks normal on outward appearance people assume she is doing well. I’ve only published this article anonymously so that I could seek ideas, opinions and to eventually initiate change in our faulty CPS organizations.

      Your cousin will highly benefit from your prayers, I believe that God has placed her in my life to show her unconditional love. Perhaps someday she will chose to begin the scary road of recovery; if she does not ever face the past, I am at peace with that also.

  9. garthsand April 5, 2012 at 4:36 pm #

    Thanks for having the courage to share your story. It’s hard to believe that this kind of abuse exists in this day and age with all the technology available to keep track of data. Worse yet the cycle continues as Danielle is still struggling in her life. Knowledge is your experience needs to be known, this could have been minimized had the agencies done there work.

    • daniellesstory April 5, 2012 at 5:21 pm #

      Garth, Thanks for visiting Danielle’s story and the comment is appreciated.

  10. tammy April 24, 2012 at 2:14 pm #

    my name is tammy ,I married kinson davis and did not find out till after we where married and I was cleaning out the closet came across his recordes.I lost it and did not know how to talk with my family..I left kinson and if i could would send him and wendy smiley to hell where they came from…davis said he did nothing..he is evil and has no reason to breath any air..Im sorry about daniell and I think social service police dept all should be held for the death of cameron.I love him never met the little boy and wish I never married that monster .ask GOD to forgive me

  11. tammy April 24, 2012 at 2:21 pm #

    I hope Kinson is not her father,Kinson is evil and out of prison well sitting in at moment for breaking a no contact order..He does not feel bad and still thinks ,he did nothing..I read that he also beat a 8 year old boy and nothing was done..That 8 year is a man today and the thing is,That 8 year old belonges to sandra ,who stayed with kinson until he met me..She never said nothing to me no warning at all.sandra also did not care about her childern.I think kinson has more of a dark past and it may never come out.I pray that he does not get away with it..Kinson is evil and no good

    • daniellesstory March 9, 2013 at 6:30 pm #

      Kinson and so many other ruthless killers are out and about….not knowing or caring about the destructive path they’ve created for others. Sad, so very sad.

  12. B May 29, 2012 at 1:05 pm #

    what do we need to do to help?

    • daniellesstory January 27, 2013 at 6:58 pm #

      If you do not know of a way to help, then please just say a prayer and be well indeed.

  13. xxx August 13, 2012 at 6:51 pm #

    I have known Wendy Simley for several years as a result of my employment with NYSDOC. She is a product of unimaginable abuse herself and is almost certainly broken beyond repair (she wavers between complete remorse to total denial).This in no way excuses what she did to her children in particular Cameron (who for the record is the only child she ever mentions) but I worry that the abuse her children suffered will be passed on to their own children. It is clear from your story that years of love and caring do not erase the effects of abuse. My prayers are with not only Daniell but her other remaining siblings.

    • daniellesstory January 27, 2013 at 6:55 pm #

      Thanks for the update in regard to Wendy. Danielle is the only child with slight hope of a decent future. I still maintain a good relationship with her, and she is making baby-steps of progress. The other two children are institutionalized with serious psychiatric conditions resulting from the prenatal exposure to drugs and alcohol. Additionally, all of these kids suffered abuse from Wendy, her various boyfriends in the home, and then last, but not least, they were abused for a few years in their “loving” (said with much sarcasm) foster home. By the grace of God, Danielle has not yet become pregnant, but to everyone’s surprise, she will make a very good mother. I am able to gauge this future by how her attitude has changed from hostile toward babies, children, and pets to one of adoration and gentleness. I believe in miracles and slowly-but-surely, I’m very happy to report this progress God has cultivated as a result of many prayers of my own, her relatives, and church members.

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